Wedding homophobia and heterosexism alive and well in Michigan!
I grew up in the suburbs of Chicago and have always believe people are people and we should all be respected just as another individual…to me it’s as simple as the “do unto others” thing that our Mom’s all tried to teach us.
It makes no difference to me what color you are, who you love or what you do in your bedroom, that’s just none of anyone’s business but yours. Because this is something I live and breathe and not just a tag-line I honestly really hard time understanding such prejudice from other people.
But out here in the boon-docks of SW Michigan apparently things are a little different and all I can hear in my head is “We’re not in Kansas anymore, Dorothy!”
Here’s what prompted all this – I’m working with a couple who is planning their Commitment Ceremony for next summer and I get an email back from one of the local venues that says “At this time, we are not hosting ceremonies and receptions for same-sex couples at The (NAME WITHHELD). I’m not sure what the future will bring, but that is our current policy.” Talk about a jaw dropping moment for me!
I just don’t know what to think but I am feeling pretty naive right now, I guess living in Saugatuck, which is a very open town with a large gay population, I didn’t think I would get that reaction from a new venue that is less than 30 miles from here.
But I’m quite the bull-dog and can’t bring myself to shut-up and play nice (hence this blog). My first reaction is to tell this venue to jump in the Lake and I won’t be bringing anyone out there until they change their policies.
Doing that could go either way, they know a lot of the wedding pro’s in the area so I could either be shooting myself in the foot or making a bunch of new friends. As much as I do love new friends – this move has the potential to get me “black balled” with other vendors in the area…or least that’s my fear.
If I didn’t have to ever work again I would be shouting their name off the rooftop, taking out ad space in the local papers and plastering my Facebook and Tweets with things like “DO NOT BOOK HERE!” but I am trying to be reasonable (and professional).
So my questions to all of you is – if you were in my shoes what would you do?