Comments for Dream Day Weddings http://dreamdaywed.com Wedding Officiants & Consulting Sun, 20 Feb 2011 15:12:51 +0000 hourly 1 Comment on The One and Only Wedding MUST-HAVE! by Rev Annie, NYC Wedding Officiant http://dreamdaywed.com/the-one-and-only-wedding-must-have/#comment-21 Rev Annie, NYC Wedding Officiant Sun, 20 Feb 2011 15:12:51 +0000 http://dreamdaywed.com/the-one-and-only-wedding-must-have/#comment-21 Thanks for speaking on behalf of Wedding Officiants, Rev. Hoot. I am usually the 1st person hired...or the last! <br /><br />THE CEREMONY is really "the centerpiece" of the wedding--more than the flowers, the party, the beautiful dress. The words, feelings, and sentiments shared in this meaningful moment *last forever*. Don't leave it to chance! <br /><br />Warm regards, Rev. Annie NYC Wedding Officiant<br />www.revannielawrence.com Thanks for speaking on behalf of Wedding Officiants, Rev. Hoot. I am usually the 1st person hired…or the last!

THE CEREMONY is really "the centerpiece" of the wedding–more than the flowers, the party, the beautiful dress. The words, feelings, and sentiments shared in this meaningful moment *last forever*. Don't leave it to chance!

Warm regards, Rev. Annie NYC Wedding Officiant
http://www.revannielawrence.com

]]> Comment on Wedding homophobia and heterosexism alive and well in Michigan! by Anonymous http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-20 Anonymous Mon, 25 Jan 2010 21:50:32 +0000 http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-20 I'm going through the same thing in Philadelphia. Last Sunday I attended a Bridal Expo at a reputable hotel with my bride-to-be and our maids-of-honor in toe. (Both of which were straight). We were stopped by a photographer and asked how many brides in our party. We said two and let him go on with his schpeal. He asked, "And when is the date?" I responded, "It's July 10th. We are marrying eachother". He got a glazed look over his face and just starred at us. So I replied, "Well thank you for your time", and started to walk away. We certainly felt the natural uncomfortability of the moment. He then tried to correct me by calling it a "committment and not a marriage" which clearly was not a line to cross at a bridal expo where you are looking for customers and not political recruitment. This shocked neither myself or my partner, but our maids-of-honors were upset. This was the first time either of them experianced the other side of the coin. It's a reality. Even in ultra-gay friendly Philly. I'm going through the same thing in Philadelphia. Last Sunday I attended a Bridal Expo at a reputable hotel with my bride-to-be and our maids-of-honor in toe. (Both of which were straight). We were stopped by a photographer and asked how many brides in our party. We said two and let him go on with his schpeal. He asked, "And when is the date?" I responded, "It's July 10th. We are marrying eachother". He got a glazed look over his face and just starred at us. So I replied, "Well thank you for your time", and started to walk away. We certainly felt the natural uncomfortability of the moment. He then tried to correct me by calling it a "committment and not a marriage" which clearly was not a line to cross at a bridal expo where you are looking for customers and not political recruitment. This shocked neither myself or my partner, but our maids-of-honors were upset. This was the first time either of them experianced the other side of the coin. It's a reality. Even in ultra-gay friendly Philly.

]]> Comment on Wedding homophobia and heterosexism alive and well in Michigan! by Marcinho Savant http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-19 Marcinho Savant Mon, 25 Jan 2010 20:38:07 +0000 http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-19 Thank your for calling vendors to task as well!<br /><br />Thanks, too, for your compassion and honor. There is no gray area in equality and, while vendors can certainly decide whom they wish to serve, all of us need to shine the light on their continuing bigotry and fear. Thank your for calling vendors to task as well!

Thanks, too, for your compassion and honor. There is no gray area in equality and, while vendors can certainly decide whom they wish to serve, all of us need to shine the light on their continuing bigotry and fear.

]]> Comment on Wedding homophobia and heterosexism alive and well in Michigan! by Broke-ass Bride http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-18 Broke-ass Bride Fri, 25 Sep 2009 05:05:03 +0000 http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-18 I would make your point, but go gently into that good night. I'm with Lauren, I think you should definitely write a letter expressing your feelings in a deep and constructive way. But I also agree with Bernadette, The Rev and Robin: a little teasing of it can't hurt. Tweet how disappointed and surprised you were to be turned down, but don't sink to attacks (not that I think you would). Its a fine line, but you can do it! I'm proud of you for taking a stance, not everyone would, but everyone should :) xoxo I would make your point, but go gently into that good night. I'm with Lauren, I think you should definitely write a letter expressing your feelings in a deep and constructive way. But I also agree with Bernadette, The Rev and Robin: a little teasing of it can't hurt. Tweet how disappointed and surprised you were to be turned down, but don't sink to attacks (not that I think you would). Its a fine line, but you can do it! I'm proud of you for taking a stance, not everyone would, but everyone should :) xoxo

]]> Comment on Wedding homophobia and heterosexism alive and well in Michigan! by Robyn Smith http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-17 Robyn Smith Fri, 11 Sep 2009 20:10:33 +0000 http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-17 Unfortunately, prejudice still exists in our society and i think that venue is shooting themselves in the foot by promoting their objection to same-sex marriage publicly. In Mi, same-sex marriage isn't even legal yet (for some stupid reason), so why would they post that message?<br /><br />I think a little negative word of mouth, done with integrity and professionalism, isn't a bad thing. Of course, you'll never be able to change the opinions of those who feel that way, so I wouldn't try to preach to them. But maybe let your loyal readers and clients a heads-up that places like this do exist.<br /><br />Oh- and I just gotta say it for those of us who do live in Michigan; not all of us are homophobic!<br /><br />Good luck :) Unfortunately, prejudice still exists in our society and i think that venue is shooting themselves in the foot by promoting their objection to same-sex marriage publicly. In Mi, same-sex marriage isn't even legal yet (for some stupid reason), so why would they post that message?

I think a little negative word of mouth, done with integrity and professionalism, isn't a bad thing. Of course, you'll never be able to change the opinions of those who feel that way, so I wouldn't try to preach to them. But maybe let your loyal readers and clients a heads-up that places like this do exist.

Oh- and I just gotta say it for those of us who do live in Michigan; not all of us are homophobic!

Good luck :)

]]> Comment on Wedding homophobia and heterosexism alive and well in Michigan! by Robyn Smith http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-16 Robyn Smith Fri, 11 Sep 2009 20:09:01 +0000 http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-16 Unfortunately, prejudice still exists in our society and I think that venue is shooting themselves in the foot by promoting their objection to same-sex marriage publicly. In Mi, same-sex marriage isn't even legal yet (for some stupid reason), so why would they post that message?<br /><br />I think a little negative word of mouth, done with integrity and professionalism, isn't a bad thing. Of course, you'll never be able to change the opinions of those who feel that way, so I wouldn't try to preach to them. But maybe let your loyal readers and clients a heads-up that places like this do exist.<br /><br />Oh- and I just gotta say it for those of us who do live in Michigan; not all of us are homophobic!<br /><br />Good luck :) Unfortunately, prejudice still exists in our society and I think that venue is shooting themselves in the foot by promoting their objection to same-sex marriage publicly. In Mi, same-sex marriage isn't even legal yet (for some stupid reason), so why would they post that message?

I think a little negative word of mouth, done with integrity and professionalism, isn't a bad thing. Of course, you'll never be able to change the opinions of those who feel that way, so I wouldn't try to preach to them. But maybe let your loyal readers and clients a heads-up that places like this do exist.

Oh- and I just gotta say it for those of us who do live in Michigan; not all of us are homophobic!

Good luck :)

]]> Comment on Wedding homophobia and heterosexism alive and well in Michigan! by Reverend Hoot http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-15 Reverend Hoot Fri, 11 Sep 2009 02:18:00 +0000 http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-15 You are SO right Bernadette! Do I really think I will loose business over it - maybe - but if that's how they feel I probably don't want to work with them anyway...no amount of money is not worth my integrity! You are SO right Bernadette! Do I really think I will loose business over it – maybe – but if that's how they feel I probably don't want to work with them anyway…no amount of money is not worth my integrity!

]]> Comment on Wedding homophobia and heterosexism alive and well in Michigan! by Bernadette Smith http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-14 Bernadette Smith Fri, 11 Sep 2009 02:07:31 +0000 http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-14 I would mention the venue's name in your blog and on twitter. And boycott them. You can maintain your integrity even by calling them out. It's not your job to educate them or other area vendors but there's no shame in calling them out for their bad behavior. Do you really think you'll lose business if you call them out? It doesn't matter if other vendors think it's bad behavior on your part - as an officiant/planner, you are in a position of power and the one who brings them business and I'm sure they'd be happy to take it.<br /><br />Integrity all the way. You won't regret it and you'll get more clients too. I would mention the venue's name in your blog and on twitter. And boycott them. You can maintain your integrity even by calling them out. It's not your job to educate them or other area vendors but there's no shame in calling them out for their bad behavior. Do you really think you'll lose business if you call them out? It doesn't matter if other vendors think it's bad behavior on your part – as an officiant/planner, you are in a position of power and the one who brings them business and I'm sure they'd be happy to take it.

Integrity all the way. You won't regret it and you'll get more clients too.

]]> Comment on Wedding homophobia and heterosexism alive and well in Michigan! by Lauren http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-13 Lauren Thu, 10 Sep 2009 21:32:01 +0000 http://dreamdaywed.com/wedding-homophobia-and-heterosexism-alive-and-well-in-michigan/#comment-13 It is a tough one. I am all about ethics, so when I run into issues similar to your own, it creates quite a bit of mental havoc for me. Although I do not like to associate myself with bias people whom I do don't share opinions with (ethical opinions), I also know that it is not MY place to judge their opinions.<br /><br />So boycott, spread bad word, just leave it alone? So many options... <br /><br />Personally, I'm a letter writer. Write them a letter expressing your feelings. Be sure to mention ALL of the potentional clients they are missing out on because of this policy. Research and get some numbers on how many ceremonies take place a month. <br /><br />Just be sure to read it before you send it... Make sure nothing was written in (too much) anger. It is a tough one. I am all about ethics, so when I run into issues similar to your own, it creates quite a bit of mental havoc for me. Although I do not like to associate myself with bias people whom I do don't share opinions with (ethical opinions), I also know that it is not MY place to judge their opinions.

So boycott, spread bad word, just leave it alone? So many options…

Personally, I'm a letter writer. Write them a letter expressing your feelings. Be sure to mention ALL of the potentional clients they are missing out on because of this policy. Research and get some numbers on how many ceremonies take place a month.

Just be sure to read it before you send it… Make sure nothing was written in (too much) anger.

]]> Comment on Hello! by JK Photography http://dreamdaywed.com/hello/#comment-12 JK Photography Wed, 18 Jun 2008 21:36:00 +0000 http://dreamdaywed.com/hello/#comment-12 Awww, thanks so much Cheryl! I absolutely loved working with you and I hope to get to work with you again soon!!! You rock!!! Awww, thanks so much Cheryl! I absolutely loved working with you and I hope to get to work with you again soon!!! You rock!!!

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